| People by nature grieve and cry. This process is natural. We all experience it. Some people internalize their grief while others let it out. Your focus and outlook on life are very important at this time. In most cases the grieving is focused on ourselves. It is in fact a rather unconscious but yet selfish type activity. Please stop a minute and think about it. Begin to focus your feelings and thoughts positively. A positive attitude is the first step.
We are born. We must die. The time we spend on this earth is not decided not by us, but by our Maker. Learn to appreciate the time you have had with your loved one. You were blessed to have had this time. Remember the times you spent together. Remember both the good times and the bad but focus specifically on the good. Remembrance is in fact the key to coping.
As human beings we have needs, both physical and emotional. Your physical health is important. Eat properly and get the proper rest. See you doctor for regular check-ups. Take care of yourself physically. More importantly, please do not neglect your emotional needs. As human beings we need companionship. Keep busy. Get involved in as many activities as you can. Meet new people. Renew old acquaintances. So often men and women refuse to go out simply because of some unfounded guilt or fear of betrayal. When you are ready, that is the time to seek new friends and relationships.
Activity is another key to coping. Increase the level of activity in your life. Try to lead as active or a more active life than before. Join clubs and organizations, volunteer to do charity work, go to church regularly, visit friends and relatives as often as possible. Consider the possibility of entering the work force if you have not been working. You may want to work part-time or full-time. However, be sure to develop interests other than work to occupy your time and mind. Take trips when possible with family and friends. Get involved in activities that interest you. Make a difference in other peoples lives. Doing so will make a difference in your life and your happiness.
Escaping from your past is not an answer. Remembrance is! The memory of your loved one will live on in your heart forever. There are more memories however to be made, more experiences to share with others. Learn to live and to laugh again and to love again. This is what life is all about. Life today is just as precious as the memories in our hearts.
I hope this will in some way help you to cope. I invite you to contact me when you are ready to discuss an everlasting memorial for you which will help you remember and cope. Feel free to call me as well if you simply need someone with whom to talk.